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*Domestic violence (also called intimate partner abuse) is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors where one partner in an intimate relationship controls another through the use of force, intimidation and the threat of violence.
*What it might look like*
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By anyone you are in a relationship with (does not have to be a partner)
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Might also be happening to someone you love (a grandchild, etc)
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Can be done by someone you love (your own child, your friend, etc)
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Does NOT have to be physical (it can be emotional, psychological… and that can be just as difficult- if not more difficult….)
A person using abusive behavior will use anything possible that makes their partner feel more vulnerable
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HIV status
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Immigration status
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Gender identity
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Relationships with friends and family and many more…
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Something that can happen to anyone no matter what age…
Being abusive is a choice.
*What it isn’t*
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Losing control
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Because of stress
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Because of drugs or alcohol
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Because of childhood abuse and/or current trauma
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Because of mental health issues
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All of these can co-exist with domestic violence, but they do not cause a person to be abusive…
*Some resources to know about*
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Develop an escape plan in case violence escalates (“worst case scenario”)
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Identify “safe” people for support
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Learn about legal rights and remedies
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Identify local resources
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Keep bag packed with important documents, etc. in safe place
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Option of filling out a safety planning worksheet
*you NEVER have to take any action or DO anything to work with a domestic violence program. The choice is always yours about what you feel ready to do. You deserve non- judgmental support regardless of whatever decisions you make.*
We will talk about all of this and much more during our Annual Program on July 8th!
Come to learn and share your wisdom with fellow HOCC women!