*Domestic violence (also called intimate partner abuse) is  a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors where one partner in an intimate relationship controls another through the use of force, intimidation and the threat of violence.

 

 *What it might look like*

  • By anyone you are in a relationship with (does not have to be a partner)

  • Might also be happening to someone you love (a grandchild, etc)

  • Can be done by someone you love (your own child, your friend, etc)

  • Does NOT have to be physical (it can be emotional, psychological… and that can be just as difficult- if not more difficult….)

 A person using abusive behavior will use anything possible that makes their partner feel more vulnerable

  • HIV status

  • Immigration status

  • Gender identity

  • Relationships with friends and family and many more…

  • Something that can happen to anyone no matter what age…

Being abusive is a choice.

 *What it isn’t*

  • Losing control

  • Because of stress

  • Because of drugs or alcohol

  • Because of childhood abuse and/or current trauma

  • Because of mental health issues

  • All of these can co-exist with domestic violence, but they do not cause a person to be abusive…

 

*Some resources to know about*

  • Develop an escape plan in case violence escalates (“worst case scenario”)

  • Identify “safe” people for support

  • Learn about legal rights and remedies

  • Identify local resources

  • Keep bag packed with important documents, etc. in safe place

  • Option of filling out a safety planning worksheet

*you NEVER have to take any action or DO anything to work with a domestic violence program. The choice is always yours about what you feel ready to do. You deserve non- judgmental support regardless of whatever decisions you make.*

We will talk about all of this and much more during our Annual Program on July 8th!

Come to learn and share your wisdom with fellow HOCC women!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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